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When I started the journey of nonviolence I had a lot to learn.  I began reading, watching, listening and seeking any information I could on the topic.  The Metta Center is a great resource.  There are even links to Prof. Michael Nagler’s lectures on nonviolence from his days at Berkley. 
Remember, searching is have the fun.  Enjoy this journey.

When I started the journey of nonviolence I had a lot to learn.  I began reading, watching, listening and seeking any information I could on the topic.  The Metta Center is a great resource.  There are even links to Prof. Michael Nagler’s lectures on nonviolence from his days at Berkley. 

Remember, searching is have the fun.  Enjoy this journey.

idreamofindia said: How do you differentiate between being compassionate and giving or being taken advantage of? I find that I try to be a good friend but I often feel like I'm spending most of my time and resources on them.

lazyyogi:

Compassion does not mean catering to other people’s desires; it means having a tender and open heart for other people’s suffering. It does not dictate your actions but it does guide the insight that precedes action. 

A good mother cares for her children fiercely and with an awakened heart, yet is she taken advantage of? A good mother knows when to say ‘yes’ and when to say ‘no’ and all the while it is with the best interests of her children in mind. That is compassion. 

In the context of friendship, compassion means a heartfelt awareness of your friends and their suffering. Is trying to make them feel better or trying to be a ‘good’ friend by spending money on them going to help them in the long run? Or is it just perpetuating the cycle?

Sometimes it is more compassionate to give people the space they need to heal, even if it isn’t necessarily in alignment with their preferences. Practicing tonglen is a fantastic way of stepping into someone else’s shoes, feeling what they are feeling, and meeting it with open compassion. 

A book I would strongly recommend on the matter is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. 

Namaste :) Much love. 

This note is aligned with today’s thoughts on self care. 

It’s easy, especially for the mothering types, to care for others.  But without self care the reserves will run dry.  Self care should be a daily practice.  Make a list of things you do to care for yourself.  Be sure to do one today.

It’s easy, especially for the mothering types, to care for others.  But without self care the reserves will run dry.  Self care should be a daily practice.  Make a list of things you do to care for yourself.  Be sure to do one today.

Imagination and creativity are key components in living nonviolently.  In a conflict situation, violence has become the expected response.  We’ve been programmed via the media to yell back, but by using our creative abilities we can come up with better ways to speak with those we feel threatened by or disagree with.  Take Antoinette Tuff as an example.  When a school shooter visited her school she remained calm and engaged the young man in conversation, connecting with him.  Everyone walked away, including the shooter. If you’re not familiar with her story, you should be.   http://www.cnn.com/2013/08/21/us/georgia-school-gunshots/
This took courage, belief, compassion and creativity.  

Imagination and creativity are key components in living nonviolently.  In a conflict situation, violence has become the expected response.  We’ve been programmed via the media to yell back, but by using our creative abilities we can come up with better ways to speak with those we feel threatened by or disagree with.  Take Antoinette Tuff as an example.  When a school shooter visited her school she remained calm and engaged the young man in conversation, connecting with him.  Everyone walked away, including the shooter. If you’re not familiar with her story, you should be.   http://www.cnn.com/2013/08/21/us/georgia-school-gunshots/

This took courage, belief, compassion and creativity.  

Today I appreciate myself.  I appreciate my capacity to love.  I appreciate my ability to share my life fully with so many.  I appreciate the time I make for my daughter.  I appreciate that despite my shortcomings and disappointments I keep on loving, trying, sharing and caring.
We are often violent in out thinking about ourselves.  Take time to appreciate yourself today. 

Today I appreciate myself.  I appreciate my capacity to love.  I appreciate my ability to share my life fully with so many.  I appreciate the time I make for my daughter.  I appreciate that despite my shortcomings and disappointments I keep on loving, trying, sharing and caring.

We are often violent in out thinking about ourselves.  Take time to appreciate yourself today. 

dancingdakini:

"Unless we make some time every day to meditate, we will find it very difficult to maintain peaceful and positive minds in our daily life, and our spiritual practice as a whole will suffer. Since the real purpose of meditation is to increase our capacity to help others, taking time each day to meditate is not selfish." ~ Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, ‘Transform Your Life’

Living nonviolence requires a peaceful and positive mind.  I will make more effort to still my thoughts and allow the big sky to open.

dancingdakini:

"Unless we make some time every day to meditate, we will find it very difficult to maintain peaceful and positive minds in our daily life, and our spiritual practice as a whole will suffer. Since the real purpose of meditation is to increase our capacity to help others, taking time each day to meditate is not selfish."
~ Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, ‘Transform Your Life’

Living nonviolence requires a peaceful and positive mind.  I will make more effort to still my thoughts and allow the big sky to open.

64 Days

Yesterday began the season of nonviolence.  Honoring the 64 days I’ve decided to practice silence on Facebook, making no status updates until April 4th.  An important aspect of nonviolence is listening.  Each day I will focus my attention on a single concept in the practice of nonviolence and note it in a journal, eventually posting here.  Today is listening.  I will go to the beach and listen to the wind and the surf.  I will listen to my heartbeat.  I will listen to my sorrow over losses caused by my lack of listening.  I will keep still and quiet, and just listen. 

Blessings, t

Honoring MLK and all warriors of love today.

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